JBay's

A place where you can take your family on a pleasant and peaceful dinner with excellent service.. oh and did I mention those "hot chicks!" Man, they sure do know how to make theirs tips with such a "sausage fest!"

I just read a few reviews of this new bar I work at. It kind of left me with a sour taste. Every restaurant presents an image to display and set an environment for the patrons so that they know what they are coming into. You can go to the Purple Cafe and taste great wine and enjoy an intimate dinner as the piano plays, with the staff dressed very plain and simple. You can go to a dive bar, such as Bishops and play music on the jute box, while playing pool or throwing darts with a casually dressed bar staff. You can go to Joey's where you can enjoy fine dining or watch sports in the lounge with a formally dressed cocktail waitressing staff. Or you can go to a small bar in Juanita called JBay's where the upscale atmosphere and an upbeat environment is mixed in with a very attractive wait staff that won't only just serve you but genuinely get to you know as well. Yeah sometime we slip in a shot or two but it ultimately makes working fun and exciting, especially for returning patrons. Now, I've been all over southern California, and taking shots with paying customers while working is a norm. I saw it happen all time, almost in every bar I went to. I thought to myself, "If I were to do that in any of my other waitressing jobs in WA I would have gotten fired on the spot for it." So finally landing a job where I can do that was very shocking, but made it such a fun time to work as well. I'm not trying to justify drinking on the job, but if customers are paying for you to take a shot with them, why not a one or two in a night? As long as you continue to do your job without sounding or looking drunk, I say WHY NOT. What's the harm people? One review came out recently and here is what it said:

"As much as I would like to say good things about this place, I can't! I use to go there all the time before this "reopening". I will say this they have dramatically improved the interior ascetic of the place. It's very nice compared to the great dive bar it once was. I would say the food is still great, if I can remember right the menu seems to be almost the same, with a couple of additions. I will say this too, the servers in there very short and tight attire do a wonderful job of taking care of the guests. which also makes this place a complete "sausage fest"! Guys you know what I am talking about. The problem I have with this place is a big one, I am no dummy as to what goes on, especially right in front of my table. There are certain transaction taking place right in the middle of the bar and constant trips to the bathrooms in this bar. Owners going behind the bar and helping them selves to liquor and pouring their own drinks and doing it quite often I might add that, and the staff doing there fair share of shots as well. Everyone knows everyone there, so I give this place 6 months before it goes down, and they wonder where all the booze went. This place could have been great!"

This guy really had some sort of a jealousy issue to start bashing at the place the way he did. Everyone knows everyone? Ok, so are you just the outsider that feels like he doesn't fit in so that it's ok that you can post dirt on a new place? Get real here. No one wants to hear your sob story about how you think the attractive wait staff and owners that hang out with their friends at the bar (which I don't see anything wrong with) is such a bad thing. And the shady transactions at the bar? That's just pushing the envelope WAY too far. I've never seen that happen since I've worked there and I know no one that works at JBay's would be stupid and pathetic enough to do drug deals at the bar... Thats absolutely ridiculous. And are you stalking people by watching how many times they go to the bathroom? "he was just in the bathroom a half hour ago, you think he's doing something shady?" Sounds like a recovering drug addict and socially challenged individual we're dealing with! Agh, I needed to get that out.

As much as I stand up for JBay's, I do find it alittle superficial but it's worth dealing with when there are always nights where there is a packed house and an perpetual amount of fun floating in the air.

Pondering moment.

It's funny how life works sometimes.

For so long I never saw the world around me; I just saw myself in it. I would be right in that moment, but I would never take a step outside of it and see it for what it's worth. I now look at all my experiences and the pasts I have created with random people and nod my head. I'm satisfied with them, but not anxious to make more of it anymore I guess. I suppose I'm just looking, or maybe limited to what I really want in my life, whatever that may be. Life was so simple at one point for me, and then one day it turned. I no longer had that close-knit group of friends. Life just kept moving, as much as I wanted it to just freeze in that one moment. I've had so many experiences like that. I never wanted it to end. But now I know that all good things must end. I am alone from start to finish, no matter how much I wish to repent against it. I am essentially nothing, with the possibility of anything and everything I want to be. I hate to be deputy downer, but that's the reality of it, right? Naturally, I always wanted to forget that factor and fixate myself in another situation so that I can freeze in that moment of contentment, but reality always has its' ways and always crashes down on me. As I realize that, I crave for a new experience to brighten my day. Something to take me away and give depth and value for what my life is worth. I'm not saying that it has to be someone, but maybe something. A new start, a new path, a new direction, a new life could do just fine. However, a single person could just do the trick. I suppose the word I'm looking for is stability. I love the thought of being a team, and knowing that we're all not in this alone, as much as I know it's so true. Maybe I'm just thinking too much.

sigh... time to sleep.

Staying strong in 2009

As my head is banging like a wood pecker to a tree, my throat is sore like I've been choked, and my body is randomly aching everywhere like someone is poking a needle in a doll and I'm facing the reprocutions, I write.

I hate to write only negative notes which seems to be the trend these days, so I'll try to be positive in this one.

Life recently hasn't been all that bad. I'm finally getting myself back on my feet [despite being flu-like at the present moment] and I'm finding myself around people that I really enjoy for who they are. Not that I wasn't doing that before, but for a time it seemed like I was around people that didn't help me grow as a person and influence me positively. So that's good. I guess a new year calls for a new beginning, a page turned, a new life.

I look back on my california trip, and recall the differences in my life it has brought. For one, I now am alittle more grown up. I now can define myself in a new way, since afterall it did bring out another side of me. I saw how life can really be so simple if you let it. I learned how to just be, and be content with knowing that. I figured out, even further, what I am looking for. And I finally had the courage to say goodbye to some of my friends. Well, it's easier typed than done of course. Being away, creating distance from people that were constantly in your life is what I meant. The funny thing is, now that I'm home I still don't really see them all as much. A group that was so close-knit, always going out together and causing chaos is now broken. It's like they knew I didn't just physically distance myself from them, but mentally as well. That is definitely evident. And all the while, nothing really was even said. Just felt. I gotta say, I have never felt so good being alone.

People are funny beings... I thought I needed to be surrounded by them at every waking moment, which don't get me wrong, I do still surround myself around people alot. Just not as often, mostly for work purposes. Who do I gotta impress anyway? I am perfectly fine being alone. Away from any kind of hurt a person could bear upon me. You know, the kind of hurt that only supports anguish, resentment, regrets, vulnerability, dependency, distrust, drama, distress, complications, etc. I'm not saying that this could all change. I just don't expect or crave anything anymore. I just let it happen when it happens, I've decided. Whether people want to be in my life or not, I'm just going to live it the best way I know how. Cheers to 2009! Man, I hope this year is gonna be avengeful...

Write more later after this sickness subsides.